Ex-Husband's Reaction to Her Dating Better Men Ignites Conversation on Male Ego
A Nigerian writer has humorously revealed the peculiar dynamics of her post-divorce friendship with her ex-husband, highlighting how his reactions shift dramatically based on the perceived quality of her new partners. Doyinsola Ilori shared this personal anecdote, which has resonated widely, shedding light on common themes in Nigerian relationships.
From Divorce to Friendship: An Unusual Bond
Doyinsola Ilori posted before-and-after photos of her ex-husband, Kay, explaining that they managed to maintain a friendly relationship after their divorce. In the newer picture, taken at the graduation ceremony of the child she was carrying in the older photo, they appeared amicable. She noted that they initially became friends and even shared details about their current partners, a situation she acknowledges is rare, as many ex-couples remain adversaries.
However, this friendship faces turbulence whenever Doyinsola starts dating a man her ex considers superior to him. According to her, Kay cuts her off and stops communicating in such instances. In contrast, when she is with someone he believes he outshines, there is no conflict. This pattern has led her to a pointed observation about male behavior.
The Core Observation: Ego and Post-Breakup Dynamics
Doyinsola elaborated on her experience, stating, "I made an observation, despite the divorce, any man he sees around me better than him, causes beef. He'd cut me off, stop talking to me etc. But let it be anyone he's clearly better than, he won't fight me." She emphasized that this might not be exclusive to Nigerian men but is a widespread issue among average men.
She wrote, "I repeat, the average man, (don't know if this is exclusively a Nigerian men thing) doesn't want you to look or be with someone better than him after the break up. It doesn't matter who initiated it." This statement has sparked debates online about gender roles and ego in post-relationship scenarios.
A Lighthearted Plea and Future Hopes
In a joking tone, Doyinsola addressed her ex directly, saying, "Ọga, stop fighting me o. Even if he is my bf, so what sef? Hian." She also reminded him of a promised gift, adding, "Except a'no born for you, one day, you'd buy that SUV." This mix of humor and seriousness underscores the complex emotions involved.
Her story, shared via Linda Ikeji's platform, has gone viral, prompting discussions on social media about how men and women navigate post-breakup relationships in Nigeria. Many have related to her experiences, while others have questioned the broader implications for dating culture and self-esteem.
