A Nigerian lady's recent social media post about a surprising encounter with a jealous lover has ignited a fiery online debate about friendship, boundaries, and respect in relationships.
The Shocking Request That Sparked a Debate
The story was shared on TikTok by a user named Lola Fetuga. She recounted a direct and unexpected warning issued to her by the girlfriend of a long-time male friend. According to Lola, the fellow woman approached her and bluntly instructed her never to hug her boyfriend.
Lola expressed profound disappointment and shock at the request, feeling she was being treated like a romantic rival. She emphasized the depth and history of her platonic friendship with the man, which she felt was being disrespected.
Details of a Long-Standing Friendship
In her emotional video post, Lola provided context to their connection. She revealed that she and the man in question have been friends for many years, having been course mates during a five-year engineering program at university. Their friendship, she stated, was well-established long before his current girlfriend entered the picture.
Adding another layer to the story, Lola explained that their closeness extended to their living arrangements. She disclosed that they were neighbors in the same compound, each renting their own flat. The girlfriend, however, lived with the boyfriend in his apartment, directly opposite Lola's own residence.
"Woman dey come to me woman to woman, she say make I no hug her boyfriend," Lola said in Pidgin English, capturing the moment. "Her boyfriend wey me and am go school, do five years for engineering, we have an established friendship... I know the boyfriend before I know her."
Mixed Reactions from the Online Community
The video quickly went viral, attracting thousands of comments from Nigerians with sharply divided opinions on the matter.
Some users sided with the girlfriend, arguing that she has the right to set boundaries in her relationship. Comments like "Must you hug him?" from user @lagcitygameboy and "She has the right to set boundaries in her relationship" from @Jeppy reflected this perspective. Others questioned the necessity of physical affection, with @Chibuzor Isaac asking, "Why are you hugging who is not your sibling?"
On the other hand, many viewers defended Lola and criticized the girlfriend's insecurity. Some comments suggested the girlfriend was overstepping by trying to control a long-term friendship. A user named @king valour framed it as "Na girl to girl matter", implying the boyfriend was not at fault. Another user, @Lydia, humorously suggested, "Lmao you for give the boyfriend another hug first. I wanna see what she will do."
The incident, shared on December 24, 2025, continues to resonate, highlighting the complex dynamics between romantic partnerships and pre-existing friendships in modern Nigerian society.
