Controversial life coach and writer Solomon Buchi has ignited a fierce online debate after declaring that a wife should never contribute to house rent, while a husband should not be expected to perform domestic chores. In a video posted on his Instagram page on June 30, 2026, Buchi outlined his views on financial responsibilities and traditional gender roles in marriage, dividing opinion across social media.
Buchi's Stance on Financial and Domestic Duties
In the video, Buchi argued that providing shelter is the most basic duty of a husband. "A woman should never have to pay rent. If you are a man and you claim to be a husband, you should be able to provide at least shelter," he said. He criticized the idea of splitting rent, stating, "You're meant to be a provider. You're meant to be a protector. So this whole idea of splitting rent with a woman—It's on you. Come on, guys. You have to pay the rent."
However, Buchi added that if a woman expects her husband to be the sole financial provider, she must take full responsibility for the home. "If you are a woman, your husband has no business doing any chores in the house. Mm-hm. Yes, I know some of you are not going to like this part. Your husband has no business doing chores. You need to cook. You are a woman," he said. He emphasized that wives should "wash, cook, and turn that house into a home," providing warmth and comfort.
Accusations of Hypocrisy
Buchi accused modern women of holding double standards, wanting men to cover all bills while also sharing domestic duties. "You want a man who's going to cook with you. Oh, because it's thoughtful. It's thoughtful. You want a man who's going to be thoughtful with you in the kitchen... But you don't want to be thoughtful while also contributing to the rent in the house. That's the issue. The hypocritical standards," he said. He concluded by advising men to demand traditional roles if they are expected to be exclusive providers: "If she wants an exclusive provider, you must demand an exclusive traditional woman. Simple. If she can't do it, then let her go with her double standards."
Mixed Reactions from Netizens
The video generated a wave of reactions on social media. User @kelechicasmir commented, "Marriage is all about understanding, love and respect." @thevictoriaogunremi supported Buchi, saying, "And then they keep asking him for more and more even when they know he doesn't have much. Support him if you want him to support you. Period!" @cycy_kemi offered a balanced view: "There’s no manual to this thing called marriage. Everyone should do what works for them. My own husband provides shelter and other things and he still helps with the chores. Just marry a kind man." @janestorch_munich questioned the idea that women should not support financially: "I mean I don’t know where this idea is from that women are not supposed to support their home financially… why not???" @thepeaceable_digitals argued that a man cannot shoulder 100% financial responsibility in the current economy: "A man should pay his rent regardless then women can support in other financial matters... whether we like it or not a man cannot shoulder 100% financial responsibilities in the home. Especially not in this kind of Economy."
Context and Previous Controversies
Solomon Buchi is no stranger to controversy. Earlier, he criticized a feminist for making insensitive remarks about late Nollywood actor Alexx Ekubo, who passed away from metastatic kidney cancer. Buchi warned Nigerians to respect boundaries and stop trolling grieving families online. His latest remarks on marriage roles continue to spark debate about the evolving dynamics of modern relationships in Nigeria.
