A Nigerian lady residing in the United Kingdom has set social media abuzz with a candid confession: she misses the romantic and financial dynamics with men back home in Nigeria. In a viral TikTok video, she expressed disappointment with a character trait she attributes to men in the UK, leading to a heated online debate about cultural differences in dating and spending.
The Viral Confession: "Nobody Dey Press Money Give Fine Girl"
The lady, who goes by the TikTok handle @okah_peace, posted a video where she openly longed for Nigerian men based in Nigeria. Using text overlays on her clip, she wrote in Nigerian Pidgin: "Omo! I lowkey miss Nigerian men in Nigeria. Nobody dey press money give fine girl for this UK." She further questioned which man in the UK would be willing to part with their hard-earned wages, stating, "Who wan give you him shift money? Everybody just wicked for here." Her use of "press money" refers to the act of willingly giving money to a woman, often unprompted, which she claims is common back home but absent in her current environment.
Netizens Weigh In: A Divided Opinion
The lady's comparison between Nigerian men and men in the UK generated a flood of mixed reactions. While some users agreed with her sentiment, others strongly disagreed, sharing their own contrasting experiences.
User burger countered, saying, "How come I dey press steady. Maybe becos I earn well sha," suggesting that financial capability might be a factor. Another user, Wizzy Dey, shared a completely different perspective, stating, "I have received more money from men here in the uk more than when I was in Nigeria." She attributed this to her career in tech, which she said makes her more appealing to men abroad.
On the side of agreement, user _bbisola simply echoed, "Wicked people. I miss my Nigerian men," while Temmie_ace offered a more cynical view: "When i dey nigeria them no press money ??.. so i no fit miss them." The discussion highlighted that experiences vary widely based on individual circumstances, social circles, and personal attractiveness in the dating market.
Broader Context: Diaspora Dating Struggles
This incident is not an isolated sentiment among some Nigerians in the diaspora. The news report, originally published on January 8, 2026, by award-winning journalist Victor Duru, references a related story where another Nigerian lady in the UK lamented being dumped by a London man because of her type of job.
Furthermore, a separate report highlighted a Nigerian lady complaining about a perceived scarcity of men in the UK, claiming she had not been approached romantically in two years. These narratives paint a picture of the complex social and romantic adjustments some Nigerians face after migrating, where expectations forged in one cultural context clash with the realities of another.
The core of the debate hinges on differing courtship cultures and economic realities. The expectation of monetary giving, often seen as a sign of care and provider capability in some Nigerian contexts, may not align with dating norms in the UK, where splitting bills or more indirect forms of support might be prevalent. This viral moment serves as a microcosm of the larger cultural negotiations and sometimes painful nostalgia experienced by members of the diaspora.
