A poignant revelation about the hidden struggles within some marriages has surfaced online, sparking conversations about emotional intimacy and the dangers of social media comparison.
The Heartbreaking Message From a Frustrated Wife
A Ghanaian man, Alhaji Ali Kamal, shared a private message he received from a woman deeply unhappy in her marriage. The woman reached out after seeing a video Kamal posted of himself dancing joyfully with his first wife. Her message painted a starkly different picture of her own 11-year union.
She lamented that throughout her decade-plus marriage, she has never shared a dance with her husband or engaged in meaningful conversations with him. The most distressing detail she shared was that she feels she cannot even go close to her husband unless he is interested in sexual intimacy. This pointed to a severe lack of emotional connection and non-physical affection in their relationship.
Alhaji Ali Kamal's Candid Advice to Couples
Reacting to the message, Kamal offered wise counsel, primarily warning couples against using the curated lives of others as a benchmark for their own marriages. He expressed that such comparisons are one reason he is sometimes hesitant to post content about his wives.
"Please oooo, don't use other people lifestyle to read your own... I have challenge posting my wives, this are 1 of the reasons," Kamal wrote. He acknowledged that his own marriage is not perfect, stating frankly, "There is no perfect marriage, even my wives are managing me. Myself I know am not correct."
The Reality Behind Social Media Perfection
Kamal emphasized that what is seen on platforms like Facebook and Instagram is often a highly idealized version of reality. He urged people not to use social media to run their homes, noting that every individual and relationship is unique.
He offered a balanced perspective, advising men to be more open so their wives can communicate freely, while also reminding observers that his own seemingly perfect moments are just fragments of a whole picture. "We fight more than you people, just that our fight don't go out like that," he confessed, highlighting the private struggles every couple endures.
His final advice was a call for perspective and gratitude: "Let's pray for longer life and good health." The original story was published by Linda Ikeji on 30/12/2025 at 12:06 PM.
