Omotoyosi Ogunbanwo, a US-based Nigerian woman, has shared a personal story about the consequences of giving unsolicited relationship advice. In a Facebook post on Saturday, July 4, she recounted how a male friend ended their friendship after she advised him to break off his engagement because his fiancée had committed a crime.
According to Ogunbanwo, the friend was part of their social circle and had initially broken up with his fiancée over the incident. While other friends urged him to forgive her, Ogunbanwo took a different stance. She wrote: “Everyone was begging him to forgive her. I said why should he forgive her? What she did was terrible. He should move on and find someone else.”
The Wedding Invitation Snub
About a month after the breakup, the couple reconciled and began planning their wedding. Ogunbanwo was the only person in their mutual friend group not invited to the ceremony. “A month later, they were sending wedding invitation to everyone and I was the only person not invited to the wedding. Husband and wife cut me off clean and smoothly like butter,” she wrote.
Reflecting on the incident, Ogunbanwo said she learned a valuable lesson: “Never put mouth in other people’s business was my lesson from that.” She emphasized that her advice was based on the severity of the fiancée’s actions, which she described as a crime. She added: “And if it was my girlfriend in the same situation, I’d tell her to break off from the man because you don’t want to tie yourself up with someone who could commit crimes like that.”
Acceptance and Moving On
Despite the fallout, Ogunbanwo noted that the couple are now happily married. She concluded: “But he married her and they are happy together because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter whether you are a good or bad person. Whoever wants to love you will love you.”
The story, originally shared by Linda Ikeji, has resonated with many readers who have faced similar situations where well-intentioned advice led to strained relationships. Ogunbanwo’s experience serves as a cautionary tale about the risks of intervening in romantic partnerships.
