Popular Nigerian cleric and relationship expert Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has ignited a widespread online debate with his recent advice to single women on selecting a life partner. The resident pastor of David’s Christian Centre took to his official X handle to share what he considers a crucial truth about courtship and marital choices.
Pastor Okonkwo's Controversial Advice
According to Pastor Okonkwo, women should adjust their approach and focus their attention on men who have already shown concrete interest in them. He wrote: "As a lady you don't choose who you want, you choose from who wants you." He added, "So start answering those dms, reply the chats and pick those calls."
Mixed Reactions from Social Media Users
The short post quickly went viral on the microblogging platform, drawing thousands of views and a flood of mixed reactions from everyday Nigerians. Some users supported the cleric's view, while others strongly disagreed.
User @jony222jony commented: "They start doing those in their 30s. They are more ruthless and selective in their 20s." Another user, @SeSetheWriter, questioned: "But what if the person that wants you is not the chosen one." Meanwhile, @JayTee_mow said: "Thank you pastor. Their pride too much."
Impact of the Debate
The discussion highlights ongoing societal debates about gender roles, dating dynamics, and marriage expectations in Nigeria. Many single women and men have weighed in, sharing personal experiences and opinions on whether women should actively pursue partners or simply respond to those who show interest first.
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo is known for his direct and often provocative takes on relationships, and this latest statement has once again positioned him at the center of public discourse. As the conversation continues, it remains to be seen whether his advice will change how single women approach dating.
